Days 1 and 2, part 2

Yup. Here I am, again. I've spent the past week really focusing on not saying (and even thinking!) anything negative about Randy. He really does make it easy. He's such a sweet, gentle, kind person. I've also tried to just say hi to him throughout the day. To really stop in the middle of an insanely busy day and just let him know I was thinking about him. I want this to work. I'm going to make it work...forever.

Hey, look! It's me again!

That's right. I'm here, posting on THIS blog again.
After a lot of thinking, and a lot of virtual head slapping from various people, messages, etc....I'm back to give this a go again. Now, I'm not going to go back and redo the previous days, nor am I going to start a new day today. For the next 2 days I'm going to kind of relive the Love Dare to this point, and then I will pick back up.
Pray for me y'all!

Update to Day 6

Well...He finally emailed me back. And, rather than it be an email about what I can do to improve things, it was all about how HE doesn't do things right. Which is one of the things that bugs me to begin with. I really wish he had more of a backbone. And I hate complaining about it, because he is sooo nice. Who complains about that?

Anyway...I am going to redo day 6. And really think and pray over the tasks for Days 1 and 2, as I haven't been keeping to them.

Day 6: Love is not irritable

He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city ~Proverbs 16:32

Today I am to choose to react to tough circumstances in my marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. I'm also to think about where I can add time to my schedule, and whatever wrong motivations I need to release from my life.


To update yesterday's dare...He didn't answer my email. If I talk to him, it won't make a difference. He still won't tell me. We've been through this before. If he's upset, he won't tell me. He just lets me be, which makes me more upset. It's like he's afraid to tell me, no matter how many times I've told him that he needs to be open with me, or that I'm not going to leave because of something he says. It's really all very frustrating

Day 5; Love is not rude

"He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him" ~Proverbs 24:14

Today I am to ask Randy to tell me 3 things that cause him to be uncomfortable or frustrated with me. Naturally, I have to do this without attacking him or justifying my behavior. I'm to do this to work on changing those behaviors.

End of Day 4

So....All I did was send Randy an e-mail asking if there was anything he needed. I did it earlier, but he was so busy he really didn't have a chance to check it all day. Kinda defeated the purpose. But, ah well. It's the thought that matters, right?

Day 4: Love is Thoughtful

Today I am to contact Randy at some point during the day just to ask how he is and if there's anything I can do for him